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<DIV>Betsy - do you have a photo of the happy couple?</DIV>
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<DIV>In a message dated 7/27/2011 10:35:27 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,
betsycadbury@yahoo.com writes:</DIV>
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<DIV>May I chime in here with sincere condolences for Buena and greetings to
all. What a terrible shock, Buena - I am so, so sorry. </DIV>
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<DIV>I am particularly aware just now of the bittersweet nature of our life
cycle. I just participated in the marriage of my daughter Cate up in
Montreal. Her husband is a wonderful, charming and talented Canadian
immigrant from France, a Muslim with Moroccan roots, whose entire delightful
family came from France for the wedding. The kids scripted the entire
day, from ceremony to reception, with something for everyone... readings from
the Qur'an, Khalil Gibran, music from Pachelbel and Bach to Moroccan dancing
and salsa, long white wedding gown to Moroccan robes and short dress for the
evening of dancing afterwards. They scripted a greeting for Karim's
mother and me to perform in Arabic, French and English, with both of us
speaking unfamiliar languages (we do have French in common - thank you, thank
you, thank you, Mme Lefaivre!). It was a fabulous day, and the young
couple are ecstatically happy and are now honeymooning in Turkey. </DIV>
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<DIV>What struck me was the subtle shift in leadership. Up until now, my
sister Peggy and I have been the moving force behind family get-togethers.
We have written the plays and composed the music that celebrated our
parents' special birthdays and anniversaries. We have choreographed and
directed the memorial services, and written the poems that brought us all into
unity. And all this changed with Cate's wedding. In a very gentle
and tactful way, she made it clear that this was her show, and that while my
ideas were welcome, I shouldn't feel hurt if they did it all their way.
Which they did, and I wasn't! There was an element of relief in
knowing that this child I have raised and nurtured has taken over, that the
torch has been passed to the next generation, and that she is more than
competent to lead. </DIV>
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<DIV>All of which seems pertinent to Judy's comments about losing our peers.
It is somehow comforting to me to know that our children are there to
"prendre la releve", and that is as it should be. A thought which
doesn't lessen Buena's pain, but perhaps makes it more bearable?</DIV>
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<DIV>Love to all, and I hope to see you at our 50th! Betsy</DIV>
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<B><SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">From:</SPAN></B> Susie Margraf
<smargraf@ne.rr.com><BR><B><SPAN
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oxford63@cyber-community.com<BR><B><SPAN
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AM<BR><B><SPAN style="FONT-WEIGHT: bold">Subject:</SPAN></B> Re: [Oxford63]
exhibition<BR></FONT><BR>My e-mail is finally up and running again. We are in
friendship,Maine for the summer about to have the 5 grandchildren,5 and under
arrive! It has meant so much to feel re connected through classmates'
responses to Buena's sudden loss. I agree with Judy this is a time in life
when we are losing more and more loved ones and dear friends. Support and
caring truly are significant. I feel so fortunate to be able to be on the
beautiful coast of Maine where it is hard to believe some days that the rest
of the world is happening.
<DIV>It was even 100 degrees here last week. Best Wishes, Susie Margraf
{smargraf@ne.rr.com}<BR>
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<DIV>On Jul 26, 2011, at 4:52 PM, <A title=mailto:brucket@aol.com
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<DIV>Judy, that was a beautiful email. I know when my brother died
unexpectedly in 2008, the messages from our classmates really meant so much
to me. Buena's daughter moved to Atlanta and we had Mikaela and her husband
for dinner in April. Buena will be here in a few weeks and I hope to see
her. The grandchildren will be in town so we may be at the beach but
hopefully we will overlap for at least a day.<BR>Nanny-co's daughter moved
here a number of years ago. If anyone is coming to Atlanta, please let me
know. We rarely have free time when in Philly and DC so I understand when
people come to visit kids.<BR>Hope all of you up north have cooled off. We
are used to the heat but it was hotter in the NE than here.<BR></DIV>
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