[Oxford63] Nancy Luke

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Fri Nov 17 21:29:48 MST 2017


This is Nancy checking in again.
I have to confess that, because today we received a fair settlement for the structure portion of our loss,  I feel better.  I find also that I am less upset if I avoid the burned-out neighborhoods.  Ignorance is not bliss, but it is easier to deal with.
At the moment I have accepted the concept of creating the detailed personal property contents inventory.  It will be an onerous chore, but I do think it is a fair method.  You may ask me In a couple of days if I feel the same way when I am still working on my kitchen contents (food, cooking gadgets, pots, pans, potholders, measuring spoons, etc. You need only to imagine each item; I must name and price each one.) Oh well, it must be done, and then I get to buy all new stuff.
I think we will move into our new house on Monday, Nov 27.  That is the day our bed will be delivered.  If the new house holds only a few unpleasant surprises, all will be well.  One crazy complication is that the former owner had a safe stuffed with jewelry.  The safe now belongs to me (it is attached to a wall of the house), a fact I had not appreciated at the time of purchase.  Unfortunately for all parties, the former owner could not get the safe open when she left (the handle jammed, probably because the safe is so stuffed).  She is now in Georgia and I in California have a safe full of her jewelry.  I'm hoping the realtor (who handled both the sale and the purchase!) can take care of the problem.  It's the least of my concerns. 
Primo, if you are reading this, thank you for the wonderful photos.  It is heartwarming to see you surrounded by your family.  Your grandma looks amazing.  I know you will take good care of her.
Happy Thanksgiving to all,Nancy 
 

    On Thursday, November 16, 2017 2:42 PM, "oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com" <oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com> wrote:
 

 Dear Nancy, I have been out of the country and out of the loop but finally catching up. You surely have shown phenomenal stamina and fortitude in coping with so much loss. I support all who wish for you to come back to our 55th👍🤗👍Good luck with your move into your new home,Susie Margraf

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On Nov 11, 2017, at 4:19 AM, oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com wrote:



Dear Nancy,I have been in close touch with Chris’s family in Petaluma and my son Luke in San Francisco. I understood from them that Petaluma was spared but sheltered people from your area. Like you, my granddaughter, Eszter, can’t bear to drive by the places she remembered as green and and whole and alive, and there is a weariness and sadness in her voice older than her eleven years. It was not until I read your words, however, that it became immediately visceral to me. Thank you for sharing so honestly the anguish and the horror of the devastation you have experienced. I hope you will come to reunion. I echo Bonnie’s thought. Arms around you,Kate
Kate Cheney ChappellP.O. Box 920Kennebunk, ME, 04043
www.katechappellartspace.com 
On Nov 10, 2017, at 4:57 PM, "oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com" <oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com> wrote:


Beautiful thought, Bonnie!
Our 55th  . . . oh my!

Susan Snow
 
 
 
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Dearest Nancy. You really don’t need another classmate emailing you to say that she is horrified and thinking of you all the time, although we all are. But, I have a new message for you as you begin to be able to think way beyond your horrible situation at the moment… PLEASE come to reunion in the spring!!It is our 55th and then we will be able to smother you with hugs.
Here’s to a good move to the new house!  Love Bonnie

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On Nov 10, 2017, at 10:50 AM, oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com wrote:


Thank you all for your words of understanding.  More tears. 
I was thinking about Hartford and insurance companies,  My father was a Senior Vice-President of Connecticut General which became CIGNA.  Not sure if they are good guys or not, but at least it was Life Insurance at the time.
Remember the Oxford motto?  It's time to conquer myself....
Nancy

 

    On Friday, November 10, 2017 5:08 AM, "oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com" <oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com> wrote:
 

 Nancy - the fires seemed so wild and so remote from us on the news - like most of the world's battle zones. But once I heard your voice, you took me right there, allowing me to feel and see the trauma and loss. In a matter of minutes you and George became displaced survivors of a disaster. I am grateful for your message that has grounded me or at least brought me closer to that reality -- I am overwhelmed by the magnitude of your loss. May your relocation help you both weather the red tape and the waves of grief. And may you and George be healed by restorative practices and time.
Sandy

On Wed, Nov 8, 2017 at 12:37 PM, <oxford63 at mailman.cyber-community.com> wrote:

Hi, everyone,
Time to check in.  First, thank you Jane for getting in touch with Primo and bringing him into our loop.  I've been in touch with him by email.  He writes about Courtney with a heavy heart, tremendous devotion, and a faith that I hope will see him through.  I've been shedding a lot of tears lately; Primo and Courtney are up there among the reasons why.  And then there is Nan Fry.
Update on my status:George and I have closed on a house in town, on the golf course to which we belong.  We can move in November 13th.  Right now we have little to move.  I remind myself that when we first were married all we needed was a bed, and we made good use of it.  Now we need one just as much - for sleeping.  Some other items will come in handy as well.  Bottom line, we need to get a few furnishings before we move in, but this is no big deal.
We are currently staying in a different house (not the one we have bought).  The owners are in Arizona for the winter, so we can stay here until we get settled in our house.  We prefer to be in our house sooner than later, however.
Since the fire, I've learned a lot about insurance coverage.  Our company, State Farm, provides different adjusters for automobiles, dwelling, and contents.  We've settled the 2 cars, hope to have the dwelling settled soon (who knows what that means?) and have yet to make a dent in the arduous task of itemizing the contents of the house.  The way I understand it is that we will receive the depreciated value (based on current replacement cost) of the items lost in the fire (everything).  There is a 2-year timeframe in which one must replace the items. When we replace an item, we will receive the difference between the depreciated value and the replacement cost.  What a nightmare for all concerned.  There were at least 5000 mostly high-end homes destroyed in this fire in Sonoma County.  There is no way they can all be rebuilt and refurnished within 2 years.  The insurance companies are going to have to extend that 2-year limit.
My days vary.  Some days I seem to be ok.  Some days I begin to shake with anxiety when I awake.  Some nights I sleep; others not so much.  We survivors often feel as if we've lost our minds.  I'm not sure I truly comprehend what has happened.  I cannot take it in.  The enormity of the destruction is just overwhelming.  That word is apt.  I cannot bear to drive by residential neighborhoods that were formerly green and tree-filled and full of life and now are just gray and black and skeletal.  As one says, it's like a war-zone, as if a bomb went off.
I've tried to sift through the ashes in a part of the house where I had some jewelry.  I give up after two minutes.  Our house is just a pile of ashes with assorted metal hulks of appliances, furnace, automobiles.  Our piano is a set of metal strings.  Our china and crystal is welded into ugly globs of broken bits glued with molten glass, charcoaled wood, and ash.  Our wooded property is brown and black.  I'm hoping some of the old oak trees survive.  OK, this is making me cry.You get the picture.  Yesterday as I drove by one horribly ruined area of town I cursed and screamed in my car, yelling at the top of my lungs to whomever.  I want to kill whoever let this happen, but of course there is no one to blame.  It was an act of nature (although some are suing the electric company).  A similar fire burned the same area in 1964 - I had seen burnt fence posts along my property line.  The difference is that then there were no houses in the way.  
Enough.  I've sounded off here.  I am sad and angry, but not all the time.  When I get down I realize I must put on my armor and fight.  I'm not re-reading this because I am on my way out the door, so apologies to Miss Jarrell(?)
Again, thank you for all your support.  I love you all.
Nancy
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